A good wife is her husband’s source of PEACE!

We are our husband's peace and it is so much more important for us as black women to be our husband's peace, especially when he's out in this world. It's because our black men have a harder plight than any other man on this earth!!! That man does not have the luxury of being upset about something that has nothing to do with what's going on out in the world, because God forbid that man gets pulled over By a police officer. Now that man is not upset with that police officer because he pulled him over; ok may be a little he might be, but to be thinking, for his mind to be in an uproar about a conversation that you brought to him while he was at work 🥹 And that officer pulls him over, He's already got an attitude thinking about the conversation, his peace is already disrupted and because you're calling with something that could have waited untill that man got home to talk about.

Now you have an officer pulling him over, and I'm not here to say all officers are bad, but we know that there are A LOT of officers out there (and for those who are the good ones, you should pulling their COAT TAILS) because there are a lot of officers out here that will misconstrue this man being upset about other things has nothing to do with the stop that's going on has, nothing to do with the fact that he allegedly broke a traffic law or anything like that! Misconstrue this and become law, judge AND jury and OMG here it is this ‘big black man, aggressive’ all because of your decision to disrupt his peace while out in the world!!!

You do not want to be the source of anything but peace for your husband ladies! PLEASE believe me when I say to you WE set the temperature for our household, WE set the temperature for our relationships! Yes, they are leading us, but WE are the one that are in control of the environment that our household, that our marriages, that our relationship are in!!

You know, social media may have you saying, oh, that's not fair. Why do I have to bear that burden? God says that we are our husband's helpmates. We ARE their source of peace. That man wants to get through his day safely and get home to you safely. That man wants to be focused on what God says his duties are, and that is to provide for you. If that man is out, he's at work, he is doing his BEST to take care of his business, let me stop you there before you start rambling about what he DID or is DOING, we're not here mixing apples and oranges, we're not talking about men that's off doing this and that (we talk about that in our workshop ‘Marriage After Trauma’ 😉). We are talking about that man that is out at work, he is trying to provide for you, he is coming home to you and he is out in this world battling things that we have no idea he’s battling. NO IDEA, because as much as we can relate to a black man, we cannot put ourselves in their shoes!

Let this man have peace at work. In fact, call him and ask him, ‘hey, baby, you okay?’ ‘How's everything going out there?’ ‘I love you.’ ‘I can't wait for you to get home’! It doesn't matter what y'all was arguing and fighting about over yesterday or that morning! Trust me, I know firsthand, we're human, it happens sometimes you're in your feelings, as women we get a little emotional sometimes, in your feelings about something happened or your husband made you upset. However, he's out at WORK. Now you don't call and do all the lovely dovey stuff that You normally do on a day-to-day basis because you're in your feelings 😩! But guess what? You'd be more in your feelings and more hurt if God forbid he didn't return home to you, and the last things that you said to him or DIDN’T say to him is what you have to live with for the rest of your natural life.

So as much as you can, be the source of peace for your husband. Be the source of love, affection, and happiness for him. Everything else, we're talking about it in our up and coming FREE webinar ‘Understanding the important stuff’. If you haven't already reserved your seat, you better do it because seats are going fast. This is a free webinar hosted by myself and my husband, Mr. Carter from Moments Planning. And we're here to give you some REAL GEMS about this married life! Click HERE to get registered. See you SOON!